Giving Our Homes & Hearts A Soulful Boost
Monday Feb 01st, 2021
I often ponder through my days, how can I make my family and I’s days brighter, more fulfilling? How can I bring as much abundance, joy and presence with minimal resistance and stress? After all we all want a bit more ease and relaxation in our lives..right?
What I have found is it really comes down to the smallest shifts in what we focus on, how we choose to look at each and every situation, every reaction. It’s funny because as much as nothing is under control at least when it comes to outside forces there is so much we can do to make our whole life and way of being more positive and enjoyable. In fact one of the only things we have control over is our selves …how are you managing your emotions, your reactions, your health and happiness? Is it from the same old template that get you the same results? What I know for a fact is that if you let life beat you down and get the better of you…it will continually do that..it’s actually quite merciless in that way! I’m not saying that a new way of doing things is going make your life free from the craziness, you will still have the days when it all may seem like to much BUT it may make the moments and days brighter for the most part, for you and everyone involved.
I have found one thing that has helped with less stress more joy is not focusing on the house having to look perfect and clean all the time, holding on to this sort of control is a sure way to drive yourself and your whole family insane! Let’s face it if you have children or a husband lol your hours of scrubbing and hard work probably won’t even get a 5 min celebration party by you before its falling apart again.. toy by toy, dish by dish, spill by spill. Now don’t get me wrong a love a clean house as much as the next person but let me tell you that is no longer on the top of my list … the things I have replaced with my obsessive cleaning is laughing and playing with the kiddos, just getting up and going out , life is too short to spend a whole Saturday dedicated to cleaning just get out the door believe me the mess will still be there when you get home and even if you did clean before it will get wrecked within 5 minutes of being in the door. This is the thing cleaning, dishes, laundry it never stops if we focus on trying to always control it, it will in fact control us and take away from the precious moments that aren’t always going to be there..like the ones where we can be completely present with our kids, they are only little once, they won’t remember how clean the house was or how perfect the laundry was folded…they are going to remember the laughter, the moments exploring , the moments of love.
This next one has been life changing for me! A gratitude journal! It’s so easy for us to get caught up in all the negative stuff that happens through our days, our lives it can really mold us into an unhappy human with a grim outlook on just about everything, it doesn’t have to be this way…life truly is such a beautiful thing and it’s about finding the beauty in all of the little things and believe me there are so many things!! I start my day with my 5 minute journal it’s the first thing I do before I get out of bed, no phone, facebook or email. It’s about tuning into that inner voice and listening to what it has to say…trust me some mornings it’s saying *piss off *what is great about this morning, I’m tired, the thought of my day ahead has already has me stressed and it’s a blizzard outside! But what if we took those things, the negative things and turned it into a positive like I’m so grateful to have this cozy warm bed to sleep in, I have so much on the go today it’s a new day filled with amazing possibilities and opportunity, how about looking out the window and seeing a blizzard you see the beauty of the snow as it dances and twirls, covering the earth and the trees with shimmering beauty. You see it’s all about perspective and it’s so easy to get so caught up in the hustle and bustle of live, the chaos, the outside noise that we forget to tune into our internal dialogue, fine tuning and transmuting our negative self-talk into positive… I challenge you even to try for 2 weeks even 1 week, stand still with the beauty of the sun, the moon, the smell of a spring day, the magic of your child’s little hand in yours, the roof over your head, family & friends, your breath, your body, the power to choose how you view and react to every moment in your life. No one can take that from you, that’s your power and believe me its powerful and life changing. I have a second journal which is a sort of art journal that I write a weekly overview of things I would like to work on, I will write poetry, sayings, if there is an inspiring picture or quote I will print it and paste it in there, make it fun! Even if you don’t have a journal write it on a piece of paper, writing things down actually changes the minds chemistry and creates a bigger impact but if that’s not your thing just say it out loud, sit with it and truly feel that moment, the emotion, the smell, the sensations…the more you do it your outlook will shift into a more joyful positive one.
Don’t forget to take a peek back and see how far you have come. We often can get overwhelmed trying to reach new goals or just get overwhelmed with life in general that we forget to briefly peek back to where we were a year ago, 2 years ago maybe 10 or 20. When you take a trip back sometimes it can make all the difference in the world. It’s easy to get caught up in our day to day routines and it can sometimes feel like we aren’t progressing when really we have made leaps and bounds towards a better life. We are always so caught up in the next moment or the past that we forget to revel in the magnificence of the here and now and just bask in all that is. It’s like this great quote that I love so much, it goes “sometimes it okay if the only thing you did today was breathe”! How perfect is that!? So simple, so true.
Self-care has become of the upmost importance in my daily routine and I guess really it encompasses all of the above and then some. From starting my morning with a warm lemon and honey water with some cinnamon or cayenne, to my daily yoga practice, taking a minute in moments of frustration to just breathe and gain perspective. It can be as big as a weekend away pampering yourself, nourishing your body and soul to having a candlelit Epsom salt bath with your favorite essential oils in the diffuser, maybe its reading a book whatever it is know that to have good relationships and connections with others the relationship with yourself comes first, enjoying the company of you embody whether it be in stillness or contemplation.
Adding the little changes are what lead to the big life altering changes, it’s the mindful awareness of sitting with things as they are, letting go of the idea of the way things should look or go and just being in the moment. Try it tonight, try to just be still, put down your phone and have that conversation you’ve been wanting to have, play that board game with your kids that’s been sitting on the shelf, go take that course you have been dying to do…whatever you do know that it all starts with you!
May your home be filled with light, love and happiness.